Love is overrated! Whether admittedly or not we all subscribe to the cliched story of boy meets girl and they fall in love and live happily ever after. You know the story. Lucky for us, sooner or later the firm hand of realism slaps us in the face as we realize that ?love? is actually much more complicated than that.
I always wondered why friendships appear (in most cases at least) to be so much easier than relationships. Believe it or not, the best answer for me came from Kanye West, in his song with Jay Z ?No Church in the Wild? where he said ?love is cursed by monogamy?. However you feel about his brand of music, I think the man made a good point in that statement.
We can have multiple friends and the friends wouldn?t get jealous of each other (one should hope) but this rationale cannot be applied to relationships. The norm in relationships is to have one partner, and one partner only. Although the regular activities you perform with that partner are typically the same as those you perform with your friends apart from sex (in most cases anyway).
In addition to this I believe people jump into relationships too quickly. A friendship must be established in order for any relationship to stand a chance. My mother once told me
?Now you may be surrounded by friends, but when you get married it will just be you and your husband. On a long drive home you will need to be able to talk to him? about anything. If you find yourself scraping for a conversation or having to think twice about what you do or say, then why are you together? He must be your FRIEND?.
I?ve got to thank my mother for possibly the realest relationship advice I?ve gotten to date! According to research carried out by the Guardian, in 2010 34% of marriages were doomed to failure by the time they reached their 20th anniversary. Perhaps its because most couples don?t approach relationship as friends first?
Another very British dating trend is occurring ? couples have gradually decided not to get married all together. In 2012 5.9 million people were cohabiting in the UK, double the figure of cohabitation in 1996. Are people less into making commitments? Is marriage becoming less relevant? Are couples cohabiting rather than get married for economic reasons?
The real reason for this trend is a whole different topic for discussion in itself. Whats for sure is that social and economic pressures definitely influence our outlook on relationships, marriage, and commitment. However, the more appealing idea is that of Mr. Right and happily ever after.
So why jump at the idea of finding your superman without first figuring out whether or not you can fly (Katt Williams on Barack Obama). I say jog on to the nearest store and buy yourself a cape! You cannot help who you like but I believe falling in love is a choice. So the sooner we stop day dreaming and start looking at ?love? more realistically, the sooner we may actually have that 1950?s ?white picket fence? happiness.
This article was written by Kissy Bang Bang, a company that promotes sexual health in a unique way.
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